If someone walks away from you, then they were not critical to your destiny.
Now this statement here…is reminiscent of old-school wisdom learned at a grandparent’s knee. Back in the late 1990s/early 2000s I became an avid watcher of cable Christian programming. I encountered many men and women who spoke to my heart and many who did not. Through the years my watching fizzled out but I still catch a broadcast or two on tv or the internet. I stumbled upon an Atlanta pastor named Bishop Bronner. Whenever I could catch his service, I’d listen with baited breath for the gems of knowledge that he would most certainly reveal. The title and the bolded tag at the beginning of this post are both from one of his sermons and these are definitely ‘gut-punchers’.
Sometimes when we lose a relationship or friendship we blame ourselves for not being nice enough, not bending over backward enough, or not compromising enough. Are these the case? Sometimes. Let’s be clear-some instances are our fault. Own it. Apologize. Provide restoration when applicable. Then move on.
But the others? The cases in which we are not at fault need to be addressed. The instances in which we have poured out pieces of our soul to folk and the gestures are taken for granted. The times when we have gone without to ensure that someone else is not in lack, and the favor is never returned. The occurrences when our kindness is scorned and we are talked about and maligned for no apparent reason. We tried to make the relationship or friendship work. We may have even attempted to buy their love. Yet, they still left. We may have cried, begged, pleaded. Yet, they still left. Is there possibly a piece of the heart that continues to wonder, “Why, Lord?”
Maybe so. But let them go. The Lord doesn’t need them to refine us any longer. Our lesson is complete and the objective has been met. They were our season or our reason; not our lifetime. Stop holding on. Grieve. Wipe those tears. Quickly though, so that joy will not be stolen and we can allow life to become greater later. The best is yet to come. 🙂
162 Comments
Zachary Rawe · May 17, 2018 at 11:52 am
This post speaks to the character I show each and every day. A heart, overflown with genuine love, splashing out like a waterfall on the suffice of others affects the ones who drink. We can help hydrate the world and feel a sense of pride while doing so, but when the area is a desert that is sucking you dry, one must change climates and move closer to the shore. Thank you for bringing this powerful lesson to birth once again.
Giselle Gonzalez · May 16, 2018 at 8:05 pm
This is one of my favorites. This hits from my past but you are absolutely right. One of the hardest things for me was to let go but like you said our joy will not be stolen! Its for the better to leave to toxics from our life and become better.
Jocelyn · May 16, 2018 at 7:06 pm
Everything in life has purpose, if there were people who aren’t in your life anymore and once were its because they served there purpose, even if it was painful or hard it was a lesson you need to learn from.
Kennia Ortega · May 16, 2018 at 6:41 pm
I really enjoyed reading this post because it’s true some people aren’t meant to stay in our lives forever.
Megan · May 14, 2018 at 8:48 pm
Definitely, something everyone should read!
Grecia Magana · May 14, 2018 at 3:44 pm
Moving on from someone is the hardest most painful heartbreaking thing someone must or has gone through. Its okay to cry, it doesn’t make you look weak. Its a way to express yourself, your emotions are pouring out. Its better to cry then not to. It hurts but this suffering is only temporary.Moving on from this relationship will help you continue life. This was destiny. Maybe this happened because its the way the universe had this planned for a reason. For success? For happiness? For a long life? Honestly its infinite to the amount of possibilities. This hurts but learn from it and take in the lesson because we’ve all gone through this and turned out to be okay.
Grecia Magana · May 14, 2018 at 3:43 pm
Moving on from someone is the hardest most painful heartbreaking thing someone must or has gone through. Its okay to cry, it doesn’t make you look weak. Its a way to express yourself, your emotions are pouring out. Its better to cry then not to. It hurts but this suffering is only temporary.Moving on from this relationship will help you continue life. This was destiny. Maybe this happened because its the way the universe had this planned for a reason. For success? For happiness? For a long life? Honestly its infinite to the amount of possibilities. This hurts but learn from it and take in the lesson because we’ve all gone through this and turned out to be okay.
admin · May 18, 2018 at 9:26 am
Great points, Grecia! It hurts but the pain is only temporary. Reflect on the lesson and move on. 🙂
Nathalia Rojas · May 13, 2018 at 1:10 pm
God has a plan for everyone. This is an amazing post. I will definitely look for the pastors sermons online. Its hard to let go sometimes but god has a plan. <3
admin · May 14, 2018 at 11:00 am
Indeed! He absolutely has a plan for us.
Felicia · May 12, 2018 at 9:11 pm
(They were our season or our reason) Not our lifetime.
This hit deep for me, i believe the people that I’ve been coming across lately have been for the season for a reason. i have no idea what the reason is but before i know it its a different season, and along comes another person for a different reason.
admin · May 14, 2018 at 11:07 am
Wow, Felicia! It sounds like life is a great teacher. It’s terrific that you are embracing the learning experiences and growing from them. 🙂
Chibuzor Ayika · May 12, 2018 at 10:33 am
It is ok to cry in some circumstances as crying is a way some people uses to express their feelings but crying for so long is unhealthy as it will not help in resolving the whats initated the crying.
admin · May 14, 2018 at 11:14 am
Great point! Cry hard, but don’t cry long. Look for a resolution, take some action steps and keep it moving. 😉
Mariah · May 10, 2018 at 3:24 pm
Thanks for letting me know that it is okay to cry but crying wont get you nowhere and not much will come out of it so find a way to cope with it and move past
Jacky · May 10, 2018 at 3:23 pm
” We tried to make the relationship or friendship work. We may have even attempted to buy their love. Yet, they still left.” I agree with your comment because some people don’t see the good side when you’re trying to work it out, yet they decide to leave without hesitating. Those kind of people didn’t deserve that person love because if they really cared then they would stay by your side. Anyways you’re right about not holding on onto those people. Thanks for opening my mind 🙂
priscilla · May 10, 2018 at 3:22 pm
If some one walks away is because they didn’t feel the need to keep you in their life if their willing to walk away they didn’t feel the need to stay but just to walk away. We shouldn’t desire to want to keep people in our lives when they want to walk away.
Christian Cruz · May 10, 2018 at 3:22 pm
“They were our season or our reason!” Those are meaningful words that I can compare to many people in my life. I have lost friends and sometimes because of my own problems. It is hard for me to settle issues between relations which is something that I will look forward to fixing. Thank you.
Sean Granados · May 10, 2018 at 3:21 pm
I find myself in those situations quite often. This was really helpful!
Manuel Payan · May 10, 2018 at 2:41 pm
I believe everyone has a heart and love to make new friends, to make themselves happy
admin · May 10, 2018 at 5:04 pm
Yes, we do! We should exercise that ability and love others thereby making new friends, huh? 🙂
Favi · May 10, 2018 at 2:40 pm
This was something that touched me because I recently went through a lost friendship with some people I thought I’d never lose. Now reading this I’ve come to except that no matter how much loyalty you can give someone you won’t receive it back.
admin · May 10, 2018 at 5:08 pm
Wow. That’s a hard realization…a tough lesson to learn. I understand-totally, Favi. 🙂
Tina weaver · May 10, 2018 at 2:37 pm
I agree with you. In life we as people hold on to others for lack of being alone. We are scared of being alone, and feel that we need people to define us. But thank GOD that what JESUS did on the cross made us perfect in him, which makes us not alone. But, I do sympathize with those that feel they have to lose their own identity to keep bad company.
Xavier · May 10, 2018 at 2:33 pm
People take thing for granted. Life is short and we need to spend more time with people we love before they go away.
Micah · March 18, 2018 at 8:24 pm
“They were our season or our reason; not our lifetime. Stop holding on.”
Ooh I needed that! Fantastic post! :))
admin · March 20, 2018 at 3:25 pm
I’m so glad this blessed you, Micah! Thanks for stopping by! Come again. 🙂